I think the one memory that sticks out clear to me is a coworker blaming all her personal issues on her "single mom problems". I am also a single mom and even though her comments are not specifically about me they are able a groups of people that I am associated with. I work very hard as a single mom and do not complain about how hard life can be at times, or at least do not blast it on social media. I talk to my family and my closest friends about the issues that I might be having in my life.
The way that this microaggression diminishes equality is because it makes me feel like all single moms have a rough life and have all these problems and need help. That they should have people feel sorry for them because they are incapable of creating a great life for a child.
When my coworker makes comments about "single mom problems" it makes me very angry. She is making an assumption that we all have it so hard and we complain, which isn't the case. I don't need people to feel sorry for me and my situation. I just wish she would talk about her problems are her own and not generalize her problems into everyone's problems.
I think that it order to turn this into a positive I would have to have a conversation with her personally and talk with her about the positive things that she does in her life and talk about her focusing on that. I also also mention not making comments about all single mom's when talking about her personal problems.
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